I’m gonna try with a little help from my friends…
I have an 18-year-old client who has no friends. By choice. Says she truly doesn’t want any. We talked about it the other day in session, and she explained that she was very committed to her studies and has no time for distractions. Plus, she added, what’s a friend really good for anyway?
We circled round and round, but still she insisted that she really didn’t need or want any friends. We explored how disappointment with past relationships is contributing to social avoidance. I assisted her in identifying ways having more support might be of some benefit. I listened and validated while cautiously challenging some of her thoughts.
I wanted to be more direct and tell her that friends are important. They are really, really important. And whether she has two or 200 of them, developing friendships would likely be far more therapeutic than sitting in a tiny room across from me every Friday.