Much To My Delight

Much To My Delight


Wedding Recap: Part One– Our Ceremony

 

When you date for nine years before getting engaged, you have ample time to fantasize about what kind of wedding you’d like to have. I knew I wanted to get married in my dad’s backyard in Texas years before backyard weddings became the trend, and long before my wonderful groom was ready to take that step with me.
I can tell you now: Our wedding was worth every minute of that wait.
In fact, I think our marriage will be stronger because of it. Not because dating longer is somehow better, or because we already have several years of commitment under our belts, but because that period of struggle–when I was ready, and he was not–taught us how to truly communicate our needs to each other. It forced me to exercise understanding even in my most impatient moments, and it gave him the time he needed to feel comfortable taking that walk with me.

I’ll say again what I said to friends who asked whether I thought we would ever get married.
“I would like to be married, but if it’s not in the cards, I’ll make my peace with that.”
The truth is, I would have rather stayed unmarried to him forever than gotten married to anyone else.
It was never just about getting married.
It was never just a desire to have a beautiful wedding.
It was about the two of us finally looking outward in the same direction, and looking forward to a long life with someone I have loved for a long time.
And okay… maybe it was about the thrill of seeing him look at me that way as I walked down the aisle. You can’t blame a girl for that.
My father shook his hand. The next-door neighbor gave the blessing. Our siblings did the readings.
We wrote our own vows.
And even planted a tree.
There were moments that made me smile.
And moments, of course, that made me cry. In this one, I’m reacting to my brother, who in a rare moment of sentimentality called his big sister beautiful. That’s the funny thing about weddings. Every person who agrees to be there reveals their love for you. Not just the person holding your hand.

Rings were passed onto fingers.

And when he looked in my eyes and called me his wife for the very first time, I didn’t know if my heart would be able to handle that much unbridled joy.
And just like that, I had a husband.

A long-haired, drum-playing, technology-obsessed, Croatian guy named Vinny from Queens.
He is really nothing like the type of guy I ever pictured myself marrying.

And so much more than I ever hoped my husband would be.

Nearly ten years ago, we sat on this swing in my father’s backyard and discussed the idea of dating. Seems like so long ago. But it also kind of feels like it was yesterday.

 

And though there have been some dips and curves along the way, taking this road with him has been the greatest adventure of my life.

So far, anyway.
Stay tuned for Part II–The Reception!
 
 

Jenn P.

30-something psychotherapist. Loves cooking, hosting parties, exploring new places. Texan by birth. New Yorker by choice. Likes to tell little stories. Pull up a chair; I'll tell you one.

  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/03661804814873913642 Counting My Cupcakes
    This is such a beautiful post- both the words and the pictures!! I am so happy for you. I will be getting married in May and this just made me even more excited to experience my wedding day, which I didn’t know was possible. My fiance and I have been dating almost 5 years. While that isn’t quite 9 years like you, I can totally relate to being ‘ready’ while he was not. It was definitely worth the wait and can’t imagine life with anyone else. Thanks for sharing! I look forward to Part II!!
  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/10278748401857024569 Jacki
    Oh, Jenn! Your wedding was gorgeous (no surprise!) and I love how you recounted it and your journey to get there. My sweetheart and I are about to move in together and I’m ready to get engaged … but he’s not. So thank you for being open about that in-between space that some of us have to go through, and for reminding me of this: “The truth is, I would have rather stayed unmarried to him forever than gotten married to anyone else.”
  • http://www.kitchensimpatico.com/ Caroline
    What a stunning post, Jenn. brought tears to my eyes. So beautifully expressed. You make some wonderful, thoughtful points. A great read on this good morning!
  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/01062263769345457523 Melinda D.
    Stunning photos!! Your post gave me a big lump in my throat. :) Thank you for sharing!
  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/07743677804515123099 A BRIT GREEK
    Such beautiful photos! You look absolutely stunning Jenn! Have a happy 2013!
    x.o.x.o
  • http://theavidappetite.com/ Rachel @ The Avid Appetite
    Absolutely gorgeous! Glad that your wedding was all you hoped it would be :) And I love your own personal touches.
  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/06206773722688910705 jackie fo
    Great. Now I’m a creeper because I’m obsessed with your wedding photos! Can’t wait to see the reception!!!
  • http://www.eatdrinkpretty.com/ Jenna / Eat Drink Pretty
    Your wedding was absolutely beautiful. I loved this post. You were a stunning bride and your story is so sweet because it is so much more about the two of you then the wedding details. Congrats!
  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/00648895688162284839 Victoria
    Your wedding looks perfect. And you have said so many kind things about your new husband. He sounds awesome! x
  • http://www.blogger.com/profile/14550025132581090500 Jihane @ Sinful Sundays
    Your wedding was gorgeous and you looked beautiful! I absolutely adore the fact that you would have rather stayed unmarried and still be with him, then be married to some other man. I LOVE,love. <3